Step 1 - FEELING FULLY
PHYSICIAN HEAL THYSELF
Right Now…I Am Feeling…
There is no later. There is only now.
Try This… Close Your Eyes…
Take a deep breath in.
Feel your feet on the floor.
Feel your chest and heart wide open.
Rays of sunlight bursting from your chest as you feel the warmth of light surrounding you.
Your vagina spreads wide open side to side as your shoulders peel down your back.
Your jaw becomes jelly and jello and your toes brush against the bottom of whatever you’re feeling.
Toes settling into the rug or the soft silky feel of the silk blankets or the cool concrete.
Whatever is there can work at any time at any moment.
Without knowing it, you have become a goddess as you stand in the middle of your…
bedroom getting dressed…
…or in the kitchen preparing eggs….
Anywhere you go….
This feeling state is accessible…
And your own feelings WHEN FULLY FELT are transformative… and mesmerizing to men.
You could be walking in the park with your child…
You could be brushing your own teeth…
writing an email as you feel the smooth slip of the titanium under your palm….
or the plastic rapidly touching one index finger and then the other as you hunt and peck for the right words…
or the feel of the string digging into the crevices of your teeth as you are flossing…
or maybe you feel warm water squeezing through your fingers as you are washing dishes…
walking to the car… feeling the cool air touching your face as the door opens…
or the slow fill of your belly as you are eating breakfast…
perhaps a feeling of delight as the perfect rhyme emerges as you are writing a poem….
or you feel the auditory joy of unison reached in perfect pitch as you are singing your favorite song alongside the artist in the car…
…hearing your own voice and feeling it as it reverberates in your chest…
or… feeling the vibration of the sounds of whooshing cars on your right and your left… horns honking…. jarring and jolting…
…the rushing of fellow citizens seeking to escape this moment rapidly to the next…
Imagine if you could learn how to feel EVERY moment of EVERY day in EVERY activity as a regular way of BEING…
As a way of LIVING… s a way of LIVING…
FULLY ALIVE - This is what it means to rebuild from the ashes… To reclaim the ability to feel in the present moment… feeling everything… no longer disintegrated by traumas and hurts.
Changing your neural pathways starting right now.
What if this way of feeling is how you begin to live RIGHT NOW
What if you are becoming capable right now to feel close and connected to any man in this moment and forever more as a new habit… from every moment going forward from here.
Imagine feeling grounded in the PRESENT, absorbed FULLY in any activity. Your body, your mind, your soul, and your spirit.
Washing hands… doing dishes… looking at a sunset….pushing your child on the swing… fully engaged… fully absorbed… fully present…
What does this have to do with drawing in love with a man?
EVERYTHING
To the extent that you can feel fully, he can feel you.
When you are in your thoughts…
… You are unconscious… and he cannot feel you.
You cannot CONNECT with him while you are not present.
In your own feelings and in your own body. We often mistake our feelings “ABOUT HIM” with our feelings… We often mistake our THOUGHTS for our feelings…
Our actual feelings and sentiments and emotions can all be stated simply without any reference to him at all… These are the feelings to connect with that can heal you from the inside out and the outside in.
No INTIMACY exists in the absence of your own conscious feelings.
Does this mean it is hopeless if you feel disconnected right now?
Do you have to be in a zen state at all times to attract love?
No, of course not.
On the contrary…. You are not seeking after a zen state…
You are discovering your own authentic FEELING state.
This is GREAT NEWS…
You can start right here and right now to FEEL consciously moment to moment so that you can draw in healing love in your feminine energy.
Ok … “SO…HOW DO I DO THAT?”
Well first, be DEEPLY reassured…
Even if you miss 80 out of the next 100 opportunities in the next hour, if you have been disconnected by trauma most of the time or close to it…
20 moments out of 100 where you are freshly feeling and present will be a HUGE shift… more than enough to make a HUGE difference and change your brain for healing and for love.
In fact, even one moment is all it takes to shift your inner landscape and your atmosphere. ONE MOMENT OF FEELING AWARENESS.
That’s ALL IT TAKES!
Now let’s talk about the HOW.
DIRECT ALL OF YOUR ENERGY AND ATTENTION toward what you are feeling in this very moment right here and now….
FULLY experience what you are doing and how you are feeling doing it
All the better… if there is something that feels good - choose that — if anything is accessible…
And if nothing feels good… THAT IS FINE TOO. In fact, best to feel the icky feelings in fullness that are fully real and present for you than to stuff them down and try to choose good feelings that are not yet accessible.
A head first dive into the ICK will TRANSFORM it. It will feel different and better as soon as it is fully felt and experienced.
To Know What You Are Feeling Means To Inhabit Your AUTHENTIC Feelings
When your inner landscape and outer presentation do not match, a man will ALWAYS feel what is underneath the presentation layer…. even if he cannot voice it. And often he cannot articulate it.
He may express it in a number of ways… Do any of the following sound familiar?
I love you but I am not IN LOVE with you anymore.
I am just not feeling it
We would be better as friends
Or other expression of romantic disconnect
The way to connect with a man is to come to know, welcome, and express what you FEEL - “good” or “bad” moment to moment.
RIGHT NOW
This inner landscape can change moment to moment every day. This is GREAT NEWS.
This means that we have a fresh start available to us every single moment of every single day.
Endless opportunities to connect with a man in an authentic way.
If you miss a chance to share your inner landscape in an authentic way, another moment comes.
You do not have my permission to beat yourself up for missing an opportunity… or even 100 opportunities… there are infinitely many new chances.
We have been taught that men do not want to know or hear our icky feelings.
This is simply NOT TRUE.
Leaning into your flow is to genuinely navigate toward what feels good in your body in any given moment - moment to moment.
It is equally effective to DIRECT ALL OF YOUR ATTENTION toward what you are doing and feeling even if it feels ICKY and “BAD”.
Every time You Do This Even A Little Bit, Your Brain Is Healing…
Authentic Ease Comes Quickly — This Will Draw Love To You.
What If I Am Feeling BAD — Not Good Right Now? I cannot Find Any Authentically GOOD Feelings RIGHT NOW?
This is VERY COMMON, especially if you are currently in an unsatisfying relationship, feeling lonely, or recently ended one.
Or maybe you are feeling like your current relationship is on the rocks….
This next point is SO important for you — And Everyone.
Leaning into what feels good is not the same as avoiding, stuffing, or even transforming painful feelings.
When you try to PUSH AWAY WHAT FEELS BAD, you experience inner conflict and present outer disintegration.
How can I possibly connect with my authentic feelings when I have so much to think about every day. And a lot to do?
I have so much on my mind… I do not have time for this…
This is the easier, softer way… As soon as you begin, within less than a day, you will notice that you feel better… you will receive more from outside and have more energy rather than less.
That said, let’s talk about thoughts… this is step 2.